In my previous articles I have addressed what many people do not realize when they consider therapy: that there are some cases where going to therapy can make things worse. If you are one of these people, you probably have a therapist that makes things worse for you. That is the very thing that you are trying to avoid. Instead, you should be focused on taking small steps to get better. Yes, therapy can help with some of the problems that you may have with your marriage. However, if you focus too much time and effort on going to therapy and ignore the things that made your marriage fail, you may be wasting your time.
In order to figure out if therapy will actually help you make your marriage work or make it even worse, you need to understand what made your marriage fail in the first place. Sometimes, couples go to therapy and never find out the real problem. It could be something as simple as a lack of communication or a need for some re-education. However, even when it is something as simple as communication, couples who go to therapy will not be able to eliminate the problem.
Therefore, it is up to you to figure out what went wrong in your marriage. Once you have figured out what went wrong, you then need to determine how to fix it. I know that this sounds confusing, but once you learn what went wrong, you will be better prepared to answer the question: “Is going to therapy going to help cure my marriage?”
If you do not want to get counseling, there are things that you can do on your own that will help improve your communication skills. For instance, you can make a concerted effort to try to be more positive. This means that you should avoid saying negative things. If you need to, you can say it, but you should do it in a positive way.
In addition, you should make a point of going out more and doing things with your spouse. Instead of sitting in front of the television all day, you should take some time out of the day to do something fun. This will make it easier for you to remember some of the things that you forgot to do.
You should also make it a point of making sure that you do not make any big changes to your personality or your lifestyle. This may be hard to do, but if you give it a try, you might be surprised at how much it helps. Another thing that you can do is to find something you can do to reduce the stress in your life. It might mean planning a nice evening out or getting a massage.
Finally, make a point of trying to spend more time with each other outside of your normal work hours. This will allow you both to refresh your relationship. It will also give you some alone time to think things over. This is always a good idea, as it allows you to think things through before acting on them.
Does therapy make you worse? Honestly, it really depends on what you are willing to do. If you are willing to take positive steps in your life, then yes, it can have some benefits. If you are willing to drop the idea of a therapist entirely, however, it can make things much worse. If you know whether or not it is something bad, you can avoid the situation and make sure you are happier in the long run.