What Questions Do Therapists Ask You?

One of the most common questions I hear from clients is, “what questions do therapists ask you?” They are just as interested in your experience as they are in the therapy process and your answers. It is important that the client feels free to share their story and that you listen to them wholeheartedly. Often clients are not sure where they should begin, but here are a few questions to ask yourself and your therapist to get you started:

What kinds of questions are usually asked? There are many different types of questions that your therapist will ask you. While some are geared toward getting more information, such as how did you come to accept your circumstances, other questions may be geared toward clearing issues. For example:

What is it going to take for me to feel better about myself? You may be surprised to hear that some clients ask you to describe their specific problem and how they perceive it. Your job is to understand what they mean and whether there is a solution. For example:

What did you do wrong? Sometimes when a client comes for treatment they have a specific event that may have triggered a reaction. Perhaps they had been sexually abused as a child or they are suffering from post traumatic stress. It is your job to figure out what the cause is, as well as why it is happening now.

What questions do therapists ask you about your background and history? Many clients come for treatment with a specific story about past experiences and/or challenges that they would like to address. Keep in mind that your therapist(s) may ask you about your childhood, but this is not always necessary. If the therapist notes something that you are not comfortable sharing then you may want to reword your responses to make them more palatable.

What questions do therapists ask you about yourself? Sometimes clients come for therapy with a story that involves childhood traumas or dysfunctional patterns. When you give an initial reading you will have an opportunity to ask the therapist questions regarding your childhood. If you find that you are not able to remember details or have difficulty relating to your memories or the events, then this may be an indication that you may be resistant to disclosure. Keep in mind that this does not always have to be a bad thing; if you are uncomfortable talking about the incidents, then you may want to leave it until you feel comfortable.

What questions do therapists ask you about sex? Your therapist may ask you questions regarding your sexual experiences. This is perfectly normal, especially if he or she thinks that you have some guilt about being a virgin. You may also want to note that these queries are not always about sex, but could be inquiries as to your relationship with your partner. In either case, do not feel pressured; simply follow your intuition.

What questions do therapists ask you about death? When you talk about dying, you may be asked questions such as, “What would you prefer if you were not here?” and “How do you feel when you die?” If you respond with an answer that does not feel authentic to you or does not adequately describe your response, then you should probably withdraw. If you do not like the question you are being given, do not participate in the session. If you feel uncomfortable, however, you can leave the session early and return when you are ready.

What questions do therapists ask you about death? If you have already had a death in the family, your therapist may ask you questions about death. This is perfectly normal, particularly if he or she has worked with you before. It is important for your therapist to know your feelings about death so that he or she can help you with them. Be honest and do not withhold information, even if it is painful.

What questions do therapists ask you about drugs and alcohol? Therapy can include talking about your use of drugs and alcohol, or their use. If you have a drug or alcohol problem, you should feel free to disclose this if the therapist asks you. However, if you do not disclose it, then your therapist may ask you uncomfortable questions, which can lead you to withhold information you might need. It is your responsibility to listen to your therapist carefully and do what he or she tells you to do.

What questions do therapists ask you about therapy? In general, your therapist will ask you about your family life, your work life, your feelings about things, and about your sexuality. Asking these kinds of questions may not necessarily mean that you have something wrong with you. However, it may indicate that you are struggling with a significant issue. You should be comfortable answering all of the questions your therapist asks you, as any one of them could be relevant to your therapy.