Can You Be Friends With Your Therapist?

If you want to talk about a difficult issue in your life, can you be friends with your therapist? This is one of the most frequently asked questions when a person wants to work on an issue in their lives. You may have had a difficult relationship with a therapist in the past and may even be afraid to enter a relationship with one again. Your first reaction might be to become distant from them. However, if you are truly troubled by the issues your relationship is failing to resolve then this is not the right answer for you.

You may have heard that therapists are often good at helping people resolve complicated issues but this does not mean that they can be your friends. A therapist has to be one who is objective, has empathy and genuinely cares about you. They also need to be someone who you can comfortably confide in and share your problems with. If you confide too much in just one therapist then this can lead to the therapist becoming defensive and withdrawn which may make your problem worse.

In addition, your friends will probably want to prevent you getting too close to your therapist since they will also want you to see them as a competent professional. Unfortunately this means that the therapist will not be able to help you solve your problem and will only be helping you to manage the symptoms. Therefore, it will not be possible for you to build up any meaningful relationship with the therapist.

In fact, the therapist’s need to keep their distance is perfectly logical. You do not want to get too involved with the whole session or you may begin to feel pressured. Your therapist should be able to draw a clear boundary between the two of you so that there is no danger of you developing a relationship with him or her. The boundary also prevents you from overstepping that line and making the therapist look as if he or she is approving of your friendship. This is extremely important because many people will tend to try to improve a situation by confessing their feelings.

It is often said that therapists are people too and it is not strange if one of them wants to have a one-on-one conversation with you. If this does happen, your therapist should allow it and welcome your participation. If he or she attempts to block every chance they have of having this one on one chat, then this can quickly create resentment and you will have no one to turn to when the need arises for therapy. Remember that you have a right to speak about what is troubling you and your therapist should listen carefully listen to you.

There is also another side to the question of how can you be friends with your therapist. Therapists can become emotionally attached to their patients and this can cause them to prescribe medications that may help their patients feel better. This can result in the therapist losing sight of his or her original objective which can result in the patient receiving inadequate treatment or even worse, not receiving any treatment at all. It is important for therapists to maintain control of this aspect of their practice because too many’side effects’ can easily occur.

In my experience, the best way to keep communication between you and your therapist’s is to maintain regular, constructive communication. When I talk to people who ask how can you be friends with a therapist, the answer is simple. You just need to talk and listen to your therapist’s interests and your therapist will gladly return the favor.

If you feel trapped in a therapist’s office and want to unpack for some time, don’t be afraid to do so. You can call during your free time to ask questions or to enquire about things that are causing you to feel trapped. If your therapist listens to you and offers you his or her assistance, the two of you will find that you can remain friendly and have good communication while taking care of business. If one of you feels overwhelmed with work and/or personal issues, that is perfectly normal. Your therapist doesn’t have to lecture you during these times. In fact, your therapist’s job is to help you work through these issues in a way that helps you grow personally and professionally.