When was the last time you felt that you were being judged by your psychotherapist? Did you feel challenged, or did you feel as if the other person had control over how far you would go? What was it like for you? Did you feel comfortable talking about the issues? Did you get the information from the session that you were looking for?
If you have been looking to get treatment for an issue that has been troubling you for years, you have probably noticed that many therapists judge you based on a single session. Regardless, of what you say during your first session, good therapists are meant to be non-judgmentsal. It does not matter how many wrong turns you have made or how many mistakes you have made.
Whether you have ever attended one of these “therapy” sessions or not, if you have ever felt attacked by a therapist, you have experienced being judged. You have also likely noticed that some therapists, despite their efforts to help, cannot help you change even the smallest things about yourself or your life. As a result of their “judging” behavior, you are stuck with whatever therapy they choose to do with you, whether it is good or bad. A good therapist is one who understands that the problem can only be healed when the client has the power to decide how to live his or her life after receiving treatment. A bad therapist does not understand this.
A bad therapist can make you feel like a burden, as though no one will take care of you. This is not the case. A bad therapist is not trying to force change upon you. Rather, he or she is attempting to make you feel guilty for making a choice different from those that he or she feels valid. The therapist may judge you based on your reactions to the therapist’s comments during your therapy. Your therapist may judge you based on your responses to the other clients in your therapy room.
Good psychologists see things from a more objective point of view. A good psychologist is one who is interested in helping you work through your issues. In addition, a good psychologist is one who is interested in working with you one-on-one. While it is true that some therapists are more skilled and effective when they work with multiple clients at once, good psychologists recognize that one-on-one sessions with their clients can give them better insight into the roots of a client’s problems. A psychologist who works primarily with one or two clients is less likely to make snap judgments and to provide their clients with a “I only treat people who think the same way I do” type of response.
So, do therapists get angry with you for making decisions that do not fit with their philosophy? No, not necessarily. However, if your therapist does not like the results of your therapy, they will most likely try to change you so that they can get the results they are seeking. If you feel you have been treated unfairly because of your prior decisions, let the professional who you are seeing know about it. If you are not sure how to approach your therapist about this, your local telephone directory can help you find someone qualified to help you solve your problems.
It is important to note that no one knows a person better than he or she thinks. As such, your therapist is best able to determine how often you should see a therapist. Therapy is not always about changes in thought patterns or behaviors. In fact, therapy is centered on discovering new ways to express yourself so that you can move forward toward your goals and become a better lover, spouse, and friend.
In short, while we may not always like what therapists do, they are trained to help us reach our goals. How many times should you see a therapist is based on how much you really want to change. The right therapist can help you do just that.