How Much Do Therapists Cost?

Are therapists a waste of money? For years, I have heard from several people who say that they have been “railroaded” by their therapists into therapy. They have said that they were uncomfortable with what their therapists told them, and were afraid to express their own fears and opinions at all. When asked why they had been forced into therapy, the common answer was that they did not trust therapists and felt that their therapist could not protect them from their own fears.

While this is certainly one of the main causes of therapist turnover, I think it misses the mark in focusing on the wrong issue. While it is definitely true that many therapists worry about trust issues and are more likely to steer their clients into therapy simply because they want to make some extra cash, I don’t believe that it is the problem. Rather, I think that one of the primary reasons that clients get put into therapy is that they lack a sense of self-worth and do not feel comfortable with their own abilities and flaws.

When clients enter into therapy they typically come with many concerns, and in many cases they have been trying to figure out whether or not they are good enough, smart enough, and talented enough to be able to live up to someone else’s expectations. Very few clients come in with a blank slate. This makes them much less susceptible to the insights and skills of the therapist. It also makes it far easier for the therapist to identify problems early on, and provide effective help in resolving them.

A common mistake that therapists make is being too available to their clients. When someone enters therapy and has a sense that their therapist is being manipulative, abusive, or insensitive, they generally pick up on these reactions and begin to develop a strong feeling of mistrust and self-worth issues. Very few clients, however, ever make the decision to picket out their therapist without having a solid reason for doing so.

A common misconception is that clients picketing out their therapists will grow more confident and stop questioning their therapist’s methods or opinions. The problem with this thinking is that clients don’t develop the skills to trust their therapist enough to open up and share their fears, frustrations, and insecurities. If clients never learned how to trust their therapist, they would never be able to tell their therapist whether or not they were being manipulative, abusive, insensitive, or uncooperative.

Another common misconception is that therapists’ lack of empathy and sensitivity causes clients to feel less connected to them. However, it’s actually the therapist’s lack of sensitivity and empathy that leads clients to question their therapist’s ability to empathize with them and their issues. If the therapist doesn’t show concern for what the client is going through and expresses only condolences, the client won’t feel as though their therapist is truly concerned about their problems. Likewise, if the therapist’s lack of sensitivity causes them to inadvertently make the client feel guilty for their issues, the client won’t feel like they’re being dismissed or that their problems are their fault. So the issue isn’t simply a lack of empathy, it’s a lack of sensitivity and responsibility.

Perhaps the most common misconception is that therapists are supposed to be “nice” people who only want to help. This is simply untrue. While it may be possible to be overly nice to get through a difficult situation, a therapist’s lack of warmth or compassion can actually make the situation worse. It’s important to remember that the therapist isn’t there to make friends; the client is there to make real, lasting changes in their lives.

In short, the answer to the question “how much do therapists cost?” depends on several factors. A therapist’s experience level, the needs of the individual client, and the characteristics of each therapist all play a role in determining the price. However, if you are struggling with depression, anxiety, or similar conditions, it may be time to speak with your local therapist about how you can treat these conditions without the use of medications or costly therapy sessions.