As a psychotherapist I get asked all the time what should I not tell my therapist. I try to explain that the things I tell my therapist are for my own edification and not to find out what my therapist thinks about my issues. But there are times when the therapist comes to me and says I need to tell them something. What should I not tell my therapist? What do they expect me to say? My goal here is to share with you some common sense guidelines on what you should not tell your therapist.
Do not tell your therapist that you believe your problem is theirs. This can lead to further emotional problems between you and your therapist. They will then begin to believe that your emotional problems are their fault and that you are blaming them. As a result, your therapist will likely focus more on you than your actual problem. If you are feeling badly about yourself, telling your therapist this can make you feel worse.
Do not discuss any physical symptoms you have. Physical symptoms can sometimes be a clue that something else is going on in your body. If you start to discuss them you may start to feel uncomfortable and even ashamed. Just keep it to yourself. Talking about them may cause them to label you as dishonest or lazy.
Don’t tell your therapist you think your problem will go away. If you do this, your therapist may come to believe that you are okay but nothing is wrong. It may seem like the only thing you need is a break from your symptoms. However, this belief is actually detrimental to you.
What should I not tell my therapist when he/she is evaluating me for medication? Your therapist is looking for certain things when they are evaluating you for medication. They are looking for whether or not you are suffering from a chemical imbalance and/or a mental disorder, if you are experiencing severe distress, if you are under stress, and if you are suffering from extreme fatigue.
If you are experiencing any of these, don’t tell your therapist. Telling your therapist something that you may be able to help them solve may only make it worse for both of you. Your therapist is there to help you get better, not make everything worse for you.
What should I not tell my therapist if I am receiving psychotherapy? When you are undergoing psychotherapy you will likely be discussing some issues with your therapist. For example, one of the main topics you may be discussing with your therapist is depression. Your therapist will most likely attempt to find out why you are depressed, why it is affecting you, and how to treat it. One way to address the issue of depression is to seek help from a medical doctor or psychologist. Your therapist will not be able to make a definite diagnosis or prescribe treatment for you; they simply want to know why you are depressed, how the condition is affecting you, and how you want to treat it.
What should I not tell my therapist if I am seeking treatment for a physical problem? If you are experiencing pain in some part of your body, talk to your therapist about it. There are many different ways to approach this topic. One common way is through alternative methods of pain relief. Sometimes doctors won’t think about natural treatments, but if you talk about it with your therapist they may want to consider using pain relief in order to cure your condition.