Many of us wonder “will my therapist tell my parents?” Therapists are very good at their work, but they are not angels and can make mistakes. When my parents asked me this, I decided to write down the answers to help you.
My first reaction was “Of course not, you’re my therapist.” After a little thought, though, I realized that my therapist may unintentionally tell my parents something. Some therapists make a big deal about something that may seem like a minor issue to some clients. This can be devastating to some clients and may cause them to stop seeing a therapist.
This is why it’s so important to ask your therapist directly and to let them know the question. If you do this, your therapist can make sure that what your parents are asking is not going to upset them. Also, your therapist will feel much more comfortable addressing the issue if they see that your therapist is completely aware of what is going on. In other words, if your parent asks “Will my therapist tell my parents?” and you tell them “Yes, as long as everything is in order and your therapist is legally allowed to share this information with third parties, you will be able to share this information with your therapist.”
Now, this answer may not be comforting to all individuals. Some people have a greater need for confidentiality than others, and for this reason they may choose to go with “no comment” or “not applicable.” If you feel as though you absolutely must talk with your therapist and this is not an option for you, then you should clarify with them. Your therapist may be willing to meet with you one-on-one to discuss this issue further with you.
Some therapists choose to share some information with their clients even if they are not comfortable doing so. You may want to ask your therapist what they would do if they were to receive anonymous emails regarding sexual behavior. Or, you may wish to discuss with your therapist if it is okay to discuss this with your parents or other family members. Usually, no problem is experienced if the information is shared with adults, as the issue is not as sensitive as if it was exchanged among children. However, if you wish to discuss this with your therapist, make sure to do so in a comfortable environment.
If you have a problem with your parents discussing this with their therapist, consider if this is a situation that you can talk about with them alone, without worrying about your parents finding out. If you wish to discuss this issue with your therapist, and if you feel uncomfortable broaching it with your parents, you may wish to keep this conversation private, or just have your therapist tell your parents that you will discuss this with them and leave it at that. In some cases, if you tell your therapist that your parents will need to be kept in the loop, they may tell your parents everything, even if it is not necessary. If this is an option for you and your therapist feels it would be helpful for you to do, you should definitely tell your therapist this.
If you are uncomfortable broaching this subject with your therapist, you may want to consider sharing this information with your friends and/or loved ones. If you find that sharing this information with these people makes you uncomfortable, you may also want to let your therapist know this. Again, keeping this information confidential should be your top priority. However, you should make sure that you keep this information regarding confidentiality in mind and that you only share this information with those you trust completely. This information may also be used to help you with coping with problems in your life, which is why you should make sure to tell your therapist everything regarding this therapy.
When faced with this situation, you will want to talk to your therapist immediately. Although you may feel uncomfortable broaching the subject with your parents, you will find that talking to your therapist will help you to get the relief you need. Even if you feel that telling your parents is not a good idea, you should at least tell your therapist so that he or she can give you the information regarding how your anxiety disorder is affecting your life. Your therapist will be able to give you the information regarding treatments that will work best for you!